Marriage and oppresion

So I went through and googled some more articles in order to get some more thoughts. Struck gold on the first one :). On an interesting website, divorceonline.com, I found an insightful relationship article. Ashton Applewhite, a divorced woman, made some reflective commentary  on the institution of marriage and the mechancics of a healthy relationship. I understand her to believe that the reason for most divorces is an unbalance in a relationship, and the unbalance comes from the fact men are given more power from society. While that may be a fact, she still believes that it isn't an automatic lose, but even though "The world is a sexist place... if each of us responds to it in a nonsexist way, society will accommodate us because it must: individual action sparks social change."
Nora's individual action is one that sparked change as seen by the influence Ibsen's play had on the world. Ever since then women's suffrage and equal rights has been on the move and improving society.
BUT does that mean Torvald was in the wrong?
Yes, he was a traditionalist. Yes, he reacted harshly. But the blame can't be laid on him only.

Blaming men for the sorry state of gender relations is as easy -- and unconstructuve -- as blaming marriage for the unfulfilling nature of many unions. The point is not that husbands are brutal and wives hapless, or women righteous and men inadequate; if men are self-centered, it is in large part because women are socialized to let them get away with it. Asking less of men is one way to reconcile differing expectations, but one that demeans both men and women. Because we are stuck with the very human tendency to get away with whatever we can

The failure of a relationship might be because of personal failures, but the real blame should be put on society. So yes, Torvald was wrong, only because society was wrong. As stated by Applewhite, and I'm just going to post the article cause it struck a chord with me, http://www.divorceonline.com/whats-new/2007/5/6/making-relationships-work-better.html, an infinite amount of things can be done to solve divorce on a case by case basis, he should do this, she should do that, but to end it completely, we need to make societies expectations of the genders equal. Over the last 2 post I've come to realize that while in my area and life experiences, I haven't ever seen women being opressed, based on the amount of articles, it still must be a problem some where. SO in conclusion, and this is a bad ending to a blog, sorry all who end up reading this, the world has just got to be more accepting and allow women to have the same oppurtunities and responsabilities of men, and hopefully that will make it easier on individuals and improve everyones relationships.